Hi guys, so maybe some of you have heard about my question earlier in the lounge forum. but no one can answer it. so i take a liberty to ask the question here where it's more crowdfull. so her's my question.

i'm looking for an english term for when people give something to others when actually he needs it. Or when people ask another people for help or something when in facts they know the one whom they asking help for needed more help. (i hope im using it right)

or maybe try to fill the question marks:

1. Its actually a ???, he knows that she needed help but he keep asking her for help
2. he give something to people but ???, he actually need that something for himself